elationship expert and author Dr. Stan Tatkin notes that the way you go to bed and the way you wake up matters more than what you do while you are unconscious.
If you share a “going-to-bed” ritual—a kiss, a brief cuddle, or a “goodnight, I love you”—then the physical orientation of your bodies during the midnight hours is irrelevant. Your brain goes into “maintenance mode” during sleep, and your body will naturally seek the position that allows for the deepest REM cycle.
Final Thoughts
If your partner turns their back on you tonight, don’t let your inner critic write a tragedy. In most cases, it’s a compliment. It means they feel safe enough in your presence to let go of their “social” self and succumb to deep, restorative sleep.
They aren’t turning away from you; they are settling into the comfort of the home you’ve built together.
The takeaway? Don’t lose sleep over the direction your partner faces. As long as the communication is open and the affection is present when the sun is up, a little “back time” is actually a sign of a grown-up, healthy love.
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